If there is one thing I know for certain, it’s that the lovely world of a dating can be one big hot mess. Being a single girl in this city may seem like glitz and glamour, but it isn’t as easy as it may look.
Call me a bitter, man-hating bitch all you want, but the last thing I’m in the mood for when the weekend rolls around is to throw on a skimpy dress, shove my feet into a pair of five-inch heels and shake my ass at a club while creeptastic mantourages awkwardly grope and gawk at me. Pretty sure the man of my dreams isn’t hiding out there.
If you’re anything like me and are bored of the standard nightclub fondlefest, it’s time for you to round up your gal pals and enjoy a therapeutic girls’ night out on the town. From the upscale Flavor Del Mar and the tropical island-inspired Lei Lounge, to the new AIRR Supper Club, discover the top ten venues for single women in San Diego.
EDEN in Hillcrest
If being hounded by creepy bachelors on a dance floor sounds like just another miserable Saturday night for you and your ladies - try a quick escape to EDEN, Hillcrest’s newest party paradise. Following a half-million dollar renovation, the brilliant shades and intricate designs that once overpowered Universal and Dish have all been replaced with natural hues and organic textures, including an abundance of plush trees and pure candlelight, to create a harmonious utopia where vanity is lost. Trust us when we say that EDEN is a welcome relief, since men in this crowd will be paying more attention to your stilettos than anything else.
Flavor in Del Mar
Last winter, the new ultra-luxe Flavor planted the seed for a revitalization of North County dining. Breathing new life into the classic Del Mar Plaza, Flavor effortlessly combines luxurious dining and high-class nightlife into one. Meet up with your girlfriends for Happy Hour and sip on flavorful libations such as the Cucumber Grapefruit martini or the spicy Tangerine Jalapeno before embarking on a one-of-a-kind culinary adventure complete with refreshing salads, hot starters and delectable Surf and Turf entrees.
AIRR Super Club in Gaslamp
Formerly known as The Witherby, AIRR Supper Club is Gaslamp’s hottest new space where singles come to dine, drink and dance. Divided into two sleek monochromatic spaces inside, AIRR welcomes guests first into the crimson red room adorned with custom designed modern lounge furniture. Accompanied by loud DJ beats and a large full service bar, the red room is where single ladies go to mix, mingle and sip on signature cocktails. When you’re ready to nosh, escape the red haze and wander into the white room for an indulgent progressive social dining experience featuring eclectic family-style culinary creations.
Bar Basic in East Village
Restaurants aren’t just restaurants these days; they’re part cocktail lounge and sports bar with a side of night club. Featuring a 5,000 square-foot urban-industrial restaurant lounge setting, BASIC combines pizza eats, upscale drinks, alternative special events, and always-unique music to offer a refreshing alternative to the raucous downtown nightlife scene. Within the basics, Basic offers three main areas including the restaurant, bar and dance floor, and posh yet simple lounge. After you’re done noshing on signature brick-oven style pizza, head over to the bar and mix and mingle with other local San Diego singles.
Firehouse in Pacific Beach
Who says girl’s night out has to include teeny tiny dresses and six-inch heels? If you’re looking for a chill night out with the gals, this beachside eatery and lounge is a great alternative to the Gaslamp crowds and downtown hassle. This locally famed two story spot attempts to bridge the gap between swanky Miami-style lounges and laid-back cozy bars in the heart of Pacific Beach. Kick back on the fire engine red lounge chairs on the spacious rooftop deck, nosh on some Nachos Fuego, throw back some liquid courage like the signature “Q” or the Georgia Peach Iced Tea, and listen to the beats of your favorite local DJs.
Lei Lounge in University Heights
Every girl agrees that an island inspired adventure at Lei Lounge is one of the best dates in San Diego. Intimate covered cabanas make the backyard of this fusion University Heights hot spot the perfect setting for a West Coast version of a Sex and the City cosmo. Opt to drink and dine on the plush outdoor patio amidst an abundance of tiki torches and petite fire pits or lounge inside and sip on seductive signature cocktails while soaking up ambient house music sounds and the luxuriously tropical feast of white.
BEACH in Downtown
With sand under your feet, a martini in your hand and the harbor view, nothing beats the wow factor of this W Hotel rooftop lounge. The rooftop lounge, bedecked with marine hues, cabana booths, subtle lighting, and heated, real sand floor, features a number of ocean-inspired cocktails and plenty of pillowy couches for girlfriends looking for laid back weekend night fun.
Harney Sushi in Old Town
Best known for their inventive sushi served with a “funk shui” party atmosphere, complete with dim crimson lights, strong drinks and DJs spinning ambient beats into the night, the flagship Harney Sushi our favorite “fish out of water” in the traditionally tequila-fueled Old Town. Besides having San Diego’s only sake bar, Harney also boasts more than 50 award-winning wines, a private VIP booth and over 35 delicious gourmet specialty rolls named and created by the loyal customers. What are you waiting for? Grab your gal pals and enjoy a feast of the senses at Harney. (pictured left)
Vin De Syrah Gaslamp
For a unique girls’ night out, freefall down the rabbit hole and experience a Wonderland you never knew existed. From the guys that brought us Firehouse and Analog, this ultra stylish subterranean lounge intertwines enchanting décor with a downtown urbanist vibe, presenting a much needed “breath of fresh air” for the Gaslamp Quarter. Vin De Syrah offers sprits, unique beer and of course, an array of beautiful wines by the glass. Lounge in an oversized leather booth, nosh on delicious cheese boards, sip signature drinks & listen to the sounds of sultry house beats. (pictured main)
The Shout! House in Gaslamp
For the mature single women in San Diego, no venue is a better fit for girls' night than The Shout! House. Far from the typical dim-lit piano bar that plays sleep-inducing elevator tunes, The Shout! House sets the stage for full-fledged debauchery at its finest. I mean, where else can you bring in a huge group of girlfriends, throw back shots, request your favorite tunes, bring up old embarrassing memories over the beats of dueling pianos, and, when your cocktail-courage is high enough, hop on stage for a ridiculously asinine solo in the spotlight?
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